Miscellaneous Thoughts
Kurt’s mom and her Romantic Significant Partner (see Kurt’s blog about Grumpiest Old Men in which he wonders if his mom is too old to have a “boyfriend” and wonders what to call Denny) are coming to visit today (Friday, March 24). She has graciously included me in their trip through Arenal and Monteverde. I am elated and nervous. Excited and apprehensive. I recently asked Kurt if she really and truly did like me. Susan is a high-school principal in Colorado, so by career, I think she is conditioned not to let emotion show on her face (if I were a high school principal, I would need major training on this accomplishment). Also, having Kurt for a son I suppose is a challenge in and of itself, maybe that training came from not laughing out loud at his ridiculous statements or faces he is known to make. Kurt says he and his mom are similar in that they “don’t emote.” Is that really a verb? Anyways, I am happy to go along, but yet still feel a little nervous. Okay, a lot nervous. This is an odd feeling for me, as in the past my ex-boyfriend’s or ex-dating mate’s moms have always liked me, almost pushing their sons into my arms (am I really that good of an example? Or was I just the best thing to come along in their son’s life at that time???) But, here, where it truly matters, where I will probably be giving her some grandchildren in the (fairly far-off) future, here is where I am less than confident. I am intelligent, educated, conversational (not to be confused with chatty or talkative), open-minded, opinionated (about the right topics), by Kurt’s standards “hot as fuck”, and generally (I think) likable. But yet, I still feel very insecure about Susan’s feelings towards me. Her opinion and what she thinks of me really matters to me. I hope I don’t screw up. Talk too much. Talk too little. Not dress appropriately. Dress too appropriately. Give good Scattergories answers. Give answers that are too good and beat the pants off her (unlikely). Regardless, I hope I don’t screw up. Could this be the reason my chin looks like Krakatoa (Kurt’s book of the moment) and keeps trying to erupt? Am I really this stressed out about seeing my probable future mother-in-law? Yes.
In other news, I have taken to believe that no matter how much insect spray and how much RAID I use in the house, it is never enough. I sprayed the whole apartment (a task of about 7 minutes, seeing as how it is not exactly a penthouse) over last weekend. Kurt and I washed down our windows and sprayed them inside and out, as well as the drapes. The doorway. The “kitchen.” Well, I was really trying to get rid of those pesky, tiny, almost microscopic ants that seem to appear every time we are cooking. I am happy to report it has greatly deterred the ants from peeking out from every little crevice. The occasional ballsy ant comes wandering across the counter or up the wall, and PSSSHHHH, sprayed, gone. That’ll teach you, you cocky little shit. But how come it doesn’t work on mosquitoes? Or the flea that was just arrogantly crawling across my screen as I type. The last 2 Wednesday nights somehow, something that really likes my calves and ankles and feet has gotten me. I woke up yesterday morning with all kinds of little bites, trying to kill the itch. I have taken to leaving the Calamine lotion in the fridge to cool the itch and lessen the bite. Doesn’t work that great, but better than nothing. And how come they never bite Kurt? I tell him my blood is sweeter than his, and he says he would rather have sour blood than a bunch of bug bites. I agree.
Of course, I will probably wind up with any number of various mosquito-related diseases: malaria, yellow fever, dengue fever or West Nile Virus (which Kurt says is only in the US, but that’s what the bottles and cans of OFF say it protects against, so I figure I better watch out for that one, too)
The water is out. AGAIN. This happens about 4-6 times per day. I don’t get it. And the electricity will also go out, leaving us to swelter in our sauna, aka apartment. We opted not to use the air conditioning, due to the fact that the owners said it was $100 extra per month in rent. We’ll sweat, thank you, we told them. But when the electricity goes out and you are lying in bed and your morning wake up call is not your alarm clock (?? Oh, you mean that thing that wakes you up at some ungodly hour, telling you that you HAVE to be someplace? Never heard of it.), but your body clock telling you to get up before you sweat to death, you realize just how much you would love just a little bit of air. Even a small breeze would be nice. Every morning, with the conversion from Celsius to Fahrenheit conversion, we are talking about an average temp of 93 or so degrees. In our bedroom. FABULOUS! I bet you are all booking your tickets to come and see us now aren’t you??
But back to the water. Apparently, there is one tank that is supposed to be for a single family home. Well they are a single family. But with 8 apartments on this tank as well. So we sometimes go without water for hours at a time. They are my favorite parts of the day, lemme tell you, especially when it comes to washing the dishes after dinner. I feel like we should move into a teepee and Kurt and I should don sarongs and instead of working at the hotel or teaching English, I should be collecting berries and Kurt should be hunting game, which we will eat by firelight that we have struck by rubbing 2 sticks together. Primitive? I think so.
Kurt and I tried to go dancing last Saturday night. When I was here before, I went to La Central disco. So I suggested going there, and the guidebook had said it would be an okay choice. First problem, we looked in the guidebook. Will we never learn?? We went anyways, paid the 1000 colones cover charge ($2) and went inside. Have you ever seen one of those movies where the wrong color person walks in somewhere and everyone stares and the music actually skips a beat? Well, that is what happened to us, except the music didn’t skip. It would have been apropos though. We were the ONLY gringos in sight. We walked in, people stared at us. Went to the bar to get beers. Got stared at. Went to sit down. Got stared at. Drank beers and watched the 3 couples dance salsa. Got stared at. So, needless to say, we didn’t stay long.
Oh, and by the way. La Central has had 2 murders there in the last few years. The guidebook failed to tell us that one.
And the men here. Who in the world taught people that making all those grunts and pseudo-whistles and comments was attractive? IT IS DISGUSTING, and I don’t like it. As my lovely roommate Dana shouted in the middle of the street while we were on vacation in Mazatlan, “IT DOESN’T WORK IN AMERICA EITHER!!!!” So, if you ever thought about that saying “when in Rome…” please refrain from the whistle, cat call, hoot, holler, ts ts ts, or grunt that you thought might attract a woman.
And a final note about my English classes. I am teaching a few different students who want to speak English, and now. Was Rome built in a day? No? Didn’t think so. Why would learning a second language be any different? My 2 main students want 2 hour classes, several times a week. Lemme tell you. You are better off with a 1 hour class with me and 1 hour of studying on your own (watching English TV, DVDs, reading, or whatever). Trust me. It is tiring for both of us. They are trying to jackknife dive off the high dive into the 20 foot pool when they barely know the doggie paddle. But they are paying me, so I try and do as they wish. Doesn’t mean it doesn’t make for long classes.
I guess that is it for now. I am writing more for my own preservation of my experience than for anything else. But I really hope all my friends and family are really reading this. That way, you know a little about what I do on a daily basis. Which, as of now, means leisure reading, swimming, tanning, checking email, going to the beach, and the occasional English class. Is this really what the Costa Ricans term “Pura Vida”?? Cuz, if so, live on!!!








